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Telefon: +381 63 878.52.44 

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    e-mail:  sos.lezz@gmail.com

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SOS konsultacije za lezbejke otvorene su za sve lezbejke, žene koje vole žene, biseksualke, queerice, gay devojke, trans lezbejke i članice njihovih porodica, prijateljice i prijatelje.

SOS konsultacije za lezbejke obezbedjuju: anonimnost, potpunu poverljivost, puno toplih reči i razumevanje  konsultantkinje koja je i sama lezbejka, podršku za životna iskustva i različita emotivna stanja kao i informacije o službama koje vam mogu biti potrebne.
 

Lezbejska solidarnost znači da nam je svaka lezbejka važna, znači da svaki poziv smatramo velikom odlukom da se pomogne sebi.  Najvažniji rad u životu je rad za sopstveni rast, kao  i da se osećamo dobro.

Sa nama možete razgovarati o više tema: problemi sa roditeljima, na poslu ili u porodici zbog lezbejskog života, dileme u vezi sa ljubavnim životom, uznemiravanjem u partnerskom odnosu, dileme oko višestruke diskriminacije Romkinja koje vole žene, žena sa invaliditetom koje vole žene, žena koje vole žene različitih nacionalnosti, starosti, težine, emotivnih i mentalnih karakteristika, pitanja emotivnih ili pravnih aspekata diskriminacije i homofobije, problemi nasilja na ulici zbog različitog izgleda ili iskustva dobacivanja, vredjanja, uznemiravanja, situacije seksualnog nasilja, nasilja u porodici sada ili od pre.

Zadržavamo mogućnost da uklonimo postove koji su diskriminatorni.

The Team for Lesbian Counselling& Education is a collective of four lesbian feminist counsellors who care about lesbian emotional well-being through individual counselling, workshop of experience and various types of group work.

We four have gathered in 2012 and decided that it is a good time to use our counselling knowledge  from many years of work with women traumatised by male violence - to organise emotional support for lesbians, queer girls, bisexual and trans women.  We became an autonomous group inside Women's Peace Group organisation in Belgrade.  We now share our emotional literacy skills with lesbians queer community.

We four come from feminist movement and we base our work and interpretation of society through feminist principles, some of them are:

v PERSONAL IS POLITICAL– meaning that we believe that patriarchal hierarchies are constructing the society.  In everyday life this implies that our emotions of fear, pain, guilt, shame… and others, can be understood as mechanisms of adaptation to the cruel forms of discriminations in the world

v  BELEIF IN SOLIDARITY --  meaning that we can decide to hear the other woman the way she hears herself, therefore she is not alone and we are not alone; we are the witnesses of the pain of the other;  we care about lesbians and women in the world

v  TRUST IN WOMEN’S EXPERIENCE– meaning that we can decide to believe women’s life stories unconditionally, and use the principle of confidentiality to build the relation of trust between us and the other  

v  ETHICS OF DIFFERENCE – meaning that we understand that patriarchal society divides people through gender, sexual orientation but also through race, class, body-ability.  One way to overcome the discrimination is to know experience different then ours and to include them in our lives, the other ways are to organise protests and demand justice, in many different ways. We believe it is our responsibility to advocate for human rights of all.

Few themes most often talked about

v  dilemmas in love life and pain of separation

v  confusions about identities, if feeling love for a girl  

v  confusions about control and violence in partnership

v  emotional consequences of sexual violence and violence in family from childhood

v  emotional consequences of lesbophobia, racism, homophobia, nationalism, xenophobia and fascism of any form

v  experience of separation from the hetero-marriage while in love relationship with a woman

v  problems on work and street harassmentcaused by different clothing style

Few facts about who reaches us

-          young girls from 17- 28 via email

-          middle aged women from small towns and rural areas by email and phone

Few things we learned from lesbians and queer girls community

v  That you contacted us most often when your lover has left you, and that it was so difficult that some considered suicide

v  That you liked most of all emotional titles on our Blog, for example “let your heart speak’

v  That lesbians in couples very often do things togetherv  That lesbians who are in multiple ways discriminated, for example have issues with walking, or are immigrants, or from Roma settlements, they feel lack of support from the community

v  That you love all night parties

v  That you desire to come out and dream society of freedom

Few sentences we said most often

v  You have done the best you could in given circumstances

v  She has done the best she could in given circumstances

v  We exercise observing our emotions, and accepting them – that’s who we are

v  Our emotional expectation is our responsibility

v  Unconditional friendship with ourselves is a seed of our happiness

In our counselling work we have talked to women who love women from small towns and from cities and --  we have proved that WOMEN WHO LOVE WOMEN ARE EVERYWHERE, however they name themselves.
Dykes on Bikes, 27 Jun 2020